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The journey toward the best version of yourself – The Foundations – Article 2
The beliefs that guide your journey
The journey to becoming the best version of yourself
Season 1 – Chapter 3 – The Foundations – Article 2 of 5
There are thoughts that cross your mind and disappear quickly.
And then there are others who come back.
“I’m not good enough.”
“I won’t make it.”
“It’s too hard for me.”
“It’s too late now.”
At first, they may seem like just thoughts. But when we repeat them many times, they start to feel familiar.
And what is familiar can slowly become something we consider to be true.
That’s how a thought can become a belief.
And just like the foundation of a building, beliefs aren’t always immediately visible.
Yet they can profoundly influence what we build on top of them.
A belief is not necessarily a truth
When we’ve believed something about ourselves for a long time, it can become difficult to distinguish it from reality.
If you keep thinking:
“I can’t do it”
You could start by avoiding all those situations that might prove you wrong.
If you think:
“Nothing’s going to change anyway”
You might stop doing the very small things that could start to bring about change.
Belief influences action.
The action produces a result.
And that result may seem to confirm the initial belief.
This creates a cycle that can become increasingly difficult to recognize.
But there is an important distinction:
Just because you’ve thought something many times doesn’t mean it’s necessarily true.
Looking at yourself without judging
Recognizing a limiting belief does not mean criticizing yourself for having it.
Many beliefs stem from the experiences we’ve had, from what we’ve heard, from the expectations we’ve encountered, or simply from the way we’ve tried to interpret certain moments in our lives.
That’s why the first step isn’t to fight them.
It’s about observing them.
Imagine looking at yourself in the mirror.
Not to look for something wrong, but to ask you:
“Does what I think about myself really reflect who I am, or is it something I’ve learned to believe?”
This question creates a space.
And that is where change can begin.
What thoughts are supporting your foundation?
In the first step of this chapter, we identified the resources you already have.
Now we can go a little deeper.
Because it’s not just what you own that matters.
What you believe is possible matters, too.
You may be talented but still feel like you’re not prepared enough.
You can be determined and still think you’ll fail.
You can be creative and still convince yourself that your ideas have no value.
You may want a change and, at the same time, keep telling yourself that you won’t be able to make it happen.
The resources are there.
But certain beliefs can prevent you from making full use of them.
That’s why building a solid foundation also means learning to recognize which thoughts support the path you’ve chosen and which, on the other hand, continue to hold you back.
Rephrasing doesn’t mean lying to yourself
“I can’t do anything”
and just try replacing it with:
“I’m really good at everything”
That new phrase probably won’t mean anything to you.
To rephrase means to come up with a different idea, one that is credible and useful.
For example:
“I’m not good enough.”
can become:
“I can learn what I don’t know yet.”
Or:
“I always make mistakes.”
can become:
“I can learn even from things that didn’t go the way I wanted.”
“It’s too late to change.”
can become:
“I can start with what’s possible for me today.”
You’re not denying that it’s difficult.
You’re simply choosing not to make it a final decision.
A quick exercise: recognize, observe, rephrase
Take a sheet of paper or your notebook and divide it into three parts.
1. Recognize
Write down a phrase you find yourself repeating when things get tough.
Don’t look for ten.
Start with just one belief.
2. Observe
Ask yourself:
Is this a fact, or is it just my interpretation?
When did I start believing it?
Does this belief support the path I have chosen, or does it lead me away from it?
You shouldn’t judge the answer.
All you have to do is watch it.
3. Rewrite
Now try to rephrase that belief in a more helpful and realistic way.
Don’t ask yourself:
“What’s the most positive thing I can write?”
Ask yourself:
“What thought might help me take the next step?”
The difference is important.
Because we’re not looking for the perfect phrase.
We are building a conviction that can support action.
The foundation also begins with what you choose to tell yourself
On your journey toward becoming the best version of yourself, you’ve already chosen a direction.
You’ve started to recognize your strengths.
Now you’re looking at something even deeper: the beliefs on which you’re building.
You can’t control every thought that pops into your mind.
But you can learn to recognize the ones you keep repeating.
You might wonder if they’re still useful.
You can question them.
And you can start building an inner dialogue that’s more in line with the direction you’ve chosen.
You don’t have to change everything in a single day.
It starts with a sentence.
Write it down.
Look at it.
Then ask yourself:
“How can I rephrase it so that it starts to support me?”
Because even a new foundation can begin like this:
from a thought that you choose no longer to consider an absolute truth.
The journey to becoming the best version of yourself
Season 1 · Chapter 3 · The Foundations
